30 ka na, malapit ka nang lumapas sa kalendaryo. Kelan ka ba mag-aasawa?
Expect your 30s to be awesome, full of surprises and unwanted commentaries about your life.
Minsan nakakapagod na ring marinig ang mga ganito. Sukatan ba talaga ng tagumpay sa buhay ang pag-aasawa? Nasa isang laro ba ako na kailangan kong mag-asawa para ma-unlock ang susunod na level. Wala naman bonus points pero ang daming kalaban. Ang daming kontrabida.
Hindi lahat nakakahanap ng katuwang kabuhay. Hindi lahat ng walang jowa hindi sinibukang lumandi. Hindi lahat ng binata at may trabaho madaming ipon. Hindi lahat ng sweldo may natitira.
Hindi ko din namang sinsabi na hindi mo kailangan paghandaan ang future mo. Hindi mo lang talaga siguro kailangan makipagmagalingan sa mga taong hindi mo naman talaga kailangan.
Hindi lahat ng walang jowa hindi sinibukang lumandi.
— Mr. Asawable (@mrasawable) November 24, 2021
When I was in my 20s I was a victim of self-pity and comparison. It was a mistake to compare myself to my colleague especially to my batchmates back in college who were doing well at the start. It made me feel less of myself knowing that I was better than them when we're still in school.
It was self-sabotage. It's a ticking bomb that I need to defuse before it blows up. Later on I was able to put myself back again, resolve my insecurities and build my confidence. Beyond the doubts I know I'm doing something great and I needed time.
During the gruesome years of my 20s up to your 30s, people expect you to:
- Have a good-paying job, preferably six-figure
- Own a car, even if you can't afford it
- Own a house, even if you can't afford it again
- Be in a relationship, to post on social media
- Learn how to cook, to post on social media too
- Have six-pack abs, to post on social media again
- Start your passion project, brag on social media
- Be in control of your finance, hide on social media
Hindi ko alam kung ganito din ba ang naging issues dati ng mga magulang natin nung nagsisimula pa lang sila maging indepedent. Siguro may comparison na din nuon pero ang katapatan lang nila noon yung pinsan o kapitbahay nila. Dun lang sila pwede ikumpara.
Ngayon lahat ng kakilala mo nasa social media. Kaibigan, kamag-anak, kapitbahay, kaaway. Lahat nakaabang sa next move mo. Inaantay nila kung saang estasyon ka pipirma ng kontrata, sa ABS ba o sa GMA. Daig mo pa si Bea Alonzo.
Galingan mo na lang gumiling.
— Mr. Asawable (@mrasawable) November 24, 2021
Pero kahit ano pang sabihin, isipin o ipamukha nila sayo: You do you! Hindi naman nila alam ang pinagdadaanan mo. Hindi nila alam ang sakripisyo mo. Ang nakikita lang nila ang gusto lang nilang makita. This does not define your success or your character.
Ang mahalaga alam mo kung anong mahalaga sa'yo. May pangarap ka at may plano kang tuparin ito. Huwag mong isipin mas magaling o mas successful yung kaibigan o pinsan mo. Galingan mo na lang gumiling.
¡Chao mi amigo!